Ask no man

No More Contention is the pursuit of clarity, charity and understanding. Contention arises from the compulsion to have others agree with us. Seeking understanding in an environment of clarity and charity produces no more contention. As Joseph Smith said, "I will ask no man to believe as I do."

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Three broad categories

In a sense, contention is inevitable and unavoidable because every individual is unique, and no two people agree on everything.  Ideally, we...

Friday, December 8, 2023

Elder Kearon on understanding others

Avoiding the Poles: Lifting Society through Service, Dialogue, and Understanding

By: Elder Patrick Kearon 


If we use politics as an example, one thing you could do if you acknowledge that you're out near one pole or another to move inwards from those poles, is read the point of view of the other people. If you have been, for instance, reading a particular publication or strands of information delivered to you through social media or through other sources, deliberately go and read the point of view that some of your friends are being delivered through their own media channels or publications. The value of doing this is greater now than it ever has been before because as we're learning, one of the ways that our media gets delivered to us is that it constantly hones in on the things that we're already looking at. So, it gives us more and more, an ever-greater diet of the thoughts and ideologies that we already adhere to. When it would do us very well to turn, read, and listen to the ideologies, thoughts, and concepts of those we currently may disagree with. If we do that with an open heart, we'll be blessed to understand the people we disagree with and become a force for peace. And goodness knows, we need greater peace in our public and private life....

Again, we need to listen. We need to watch it. We need to talk to those who don't share our ideas, come to an understanding with them, and recognize step-by-step that above all, they are children of God too. They want happy lives for themselves and happy lives for their children and grandchildren. You must be examples of this. You have the gospel as your foundation and have been taught that we must be peacemakers. This is work for you to do. And to continue on that, perhaps while you're still studying and beyond, I would encourage you to take your place in contributing to society in governments of various different forms....

But as you remember who you are, you will be blessed as you become a depolarizing voice and as you train yourself to become such. If you've got over dug-in in your points of view, and if you can't see it, ask a friend if you've become so, and then go to work and watch your rhetoric, and be calm, considerate, and thoughtful as you consider the ideas of the ideology and positions of others.

Come close and understand them. You may never fully agree, and that's okay. But be a voice for peace and get involved at suitable points in your life in the leadership of schools, universities, cities, counties, states, and nations. We are a people who thrive on opposition. Again, we don't seek it, but we must now be people who thrive in union and unison with others. We must find others with whom we haven't always agreed and get closer to them and find common cause with them, find things that we can unite around and build a better town, better city, better world with them, and build happier families at the heart of all of that.,you%20may%20become%20without%20sin

Thursday, December 7, 2023

The Rational Restoration: Table of Contents

People are asking what's in the book and why I wrote it.

The subtitle explains that the book consists of "reframes in the pursuit of clarity, charity and understanding."

In my view, the Restoration is rational. It is simple. It all makes sense. 

But various complications have set in, primarily because of the theories of critics and intellectuals.

In the book, I explain the FAITH model of analysis and propose around 60 reframes of confusing interpretations created by critics and intellectuals. The reframes make sense of the historical, doctrinal, and organizational issues.

For example, in my opinion it is not rational to say that Joseph and Oliver told the truth about their experiences, but to reject what they said about the origin (SITH) and setting (M2C) of the Book of Mormon.

I emphasize in the book (and everywhere else) that I encourage people to make their own informed decisions. That's what clarity is all about. 

Secondly, I'm fine with people believing whatever they want, and I assume people act in good faith. That's the charity element.

Finally, I'm interested in understanding others and feel no need to persuade. The compulsion to seek conformity or conversion is a major, if not the sole, cause of contention. 

The work of so many LDS apologists and critics shows how desperate they are to fortify their own beliefs/conclusions by seeking conformity and approval from others because they are so insecure they can't tolerate clarity, charity or understanding.


But the Rational Restoration is an antidote to contention, misunderstanding, and censorship.


Interested readers can go to Amazon and download a Kindle preview that includes the Table of Contents.

I also posted the Table of Contents to the MOBOM site, here: