Thoughtful article.
Eliminate anger and you will change your life. This article will teach you how to start.
People ask me all the time how I run a company, write long maritime articles, travel to DC often, write long replies on X, be a good dad, and still pray daily.
It’s because I don’t marinate in anger.
Anger is the great time thief. It disguises itself as productive energy but it’s just a furnace burning fuel and producing nothing.
This is a big reason government is broken. Anger feels like effort. It has all the physiological markers of doing work. But officials who spend their days servicing outrage about the other side’s intent aren’t governing. They aren’t helping their constituents.
They’ve mistaken the furnace for the engine.
And that’s the goal of Marxism. That’s the goal of the demons that possess. Destruction of society.
This nation was built on the Protestant work ethic. The productivity gurus will tell you success is about hard work and sacrifice, and yes, those are prerequisites. But they’re only prerequisites.
The fact that everything has gotten just a little worse in the past ten years is a well-discussed topic. Yes, the best and brightest are excluded by DEI. But another reason is that anger has robbed millions of the time, focus, and willpower to accomplish anything great.
Christianity didn’t build the great cathedrals of Europe on hard work alone. It built them on the radical idea that you could release the assumptions you held about the people who wronged you. It’s the elimination of false assumptions about intent, which is the elimination of anger, which is the liberation of every ounce of energy that anger was consuming. It’s sitting in the confessional or praying on your knees to examine your own intents.
That’s the energy that built cathedrals, great ships and skyscrapers. That’s the energy that built Western civilization. Entire societies constructed by people who chose to stop feeding anger, reassess their intentions weekly, the furnace and start building.
And civilizations that foment anger? Well look no further than Iran.
The capacity you have for doing work is infinite once you stop feeding the demons. Love your neighbor (even those who Dox you). Check your assumptions. Get back to work.
You are angry. I get it. I have felt anger too.
But we need you on the top of your game. We need clear minds. We need more available time. We need your help rebuilding this great nation.
Anger sucks away your time and focus.
P.S. If you just can’t drop it. If they have hurt you and your family personally. Ok. Try a different emotion instead. Feel righteous indignation, feel betrayed, feel determined… just try something besides anger.
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Excellent article! Thank you. No bias here.
We heard a sermon this morning that touched on this... A study was done on successful marriages. They discovered that when the spouse does something offensive, the partner in a successful marriage assumes the intent was positive, i.e., he's just tired, he was trying to help, etc. I like thinking that others have the best intentions including my husband.
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The next article gets into the weeds, but has a good point in this excerpt:
An accusation from a mob can be dismissed. Those people are wrong. Those people are partisan. Those people don't know the full story. The false assumption is theirs, and you can reject it.
But when someone proves the truth, with documentation, with verification, with no assumptions at all, there is no external target. The only false assumption left is yours. About yourself.
And at that point you have a choice: accept what is now obvious about your own motives, or let a wave of anger crash so hard that it completely blinds you from the evidence you don't want to see.
Truth hurts. Most people choose the wave.
The psychologist Leon Festinger documented this in the 1950s. When cult members were confronted with undeniable proof that their doomsday prophecy had failed, they didn't leave. They became more committed. The belief was too central to who they were. Updating it would have meant admitting they'd organized their identity around a lie.
This is the same mechanism. It operates in marriages, in boardrooms, in newsrooms, and in politics. Verified truth is the most dangerous weapon in public discourse. Not because it makes people think. Because it threatens the story they cannot afford to stop believing about themselves.
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Full article:
War on Rocks - The Real Reason Data Republican Is So Effective
Why Truth Hurts More Than Any Lie
The , (WOTR) doxxing of (CP) scandal just unlocked an answer I have been searching two decades to find. It's also why (DR) is THE most effective voice on X today.
My father was the most loving man I ever knew. A devout Catholic who said grace before every meal. A Cornell graduate who moved our family to the South Bronx because he believed his education was wasted if it didn't serve the people who needed it most.
He also had PTSD from Vietnam. And when the rage came, it came without warning. One moment he was the gentlest man in the room. The next, every object on the kitchen table was on the floor and you stood very still because the person in front of you was someone else entirely.
I spent my whole life trying to understand that line. Not anger in the abstract. That specific threshold: the instant a man who loved his family more than anything became someone who frightened them.
That search led me, decades later, to a week with Marshall Rosenberg, the psychologist who created Nonviolent Communication. Not the watered-down marriage counseling version. The original, undiluted framework.
Rosenberg believed anger was the root cause of all violence, all war, and most acts of political destruction. Most people nod along with that. But he went further.
He said anger is the product of a very specific cognitive error: assuming another person's intent.
"You did this BECAUSE you are selfish." "You said that BECAUSE you don't respect me." "You voted for him BECAUSE you're a bigot."
These are not arguments. They are stories we write about what is happening inside another person's mind. And according to Rosenberg, they are the single greatest mechanism by which anger enters the world.
Think about it in your own life. When someone accuses you of a motive you don't hold, the reaction is immediate and visceral. You are not being told you're wrong. You are being told you are lying about who you are. That's a different kind of wound.
Let me say that again. All anger is caused by assuming another person's intent.
I carried this framework for years and it worked. When I felt anger rising, I'd ask: what am I assuming about this person's intent? Almost always, I'd invented a story. Remove the story, the anger dissolves.
But Rosenberg's framework has a gap. And what fills that gap explains not just my father's rage, but the specific way American politics broke.
The Weaponized Shortcut
First I must explain why TDS is sprading like wildfire.
Here's the thing Rosenberg understood as a psychologist but never fully mapped as a political strategist: motive-attribution doesn't just happen naturally. It can be manufactured. Deployed. Scaled.
And one side of the political spectrum figured this out decades ago.
The intellectual roots trace back to Marxist critical theory, specifically the Frankfurt School's insight that you don't need to win an argument if you can redefine the terms of the argument. Herbert Marcuse took this further in the 1960s: if you can categorize your opponent's position as a manifestation of oppression (racism, sexism, phobia of any kind) you don't have to engage with the position at all. You've assigned a motive. And once a motive is assigned, the argument is over.
This isn't conspiracy theory. It's published strategy. It's taught in universities. And it works not because it's true but because of how the human brain processes shortcuts.
I'm right of center. I'm religious. I acknowledge differences between races. None of those things crossed my mind when I started writing about military education reform. I care about reform for a dozen specific, articulable reasons. But explaining them requires time and nuance, and the majority of people are too busy.
Everyone is looking for faster ways to understand the world. Someone offering a simple explanation, "Konrad's a racist," is handing them a shortcut. Accepting that frame and moving on is far easier than reading three pages of policy analysis.
That's the genius of the Marcuse playbook. It exploits a basic feature of human cognition: we prefer simple explanations, especially ones that come with a moral judgment attached. "He's a racist" is a complete package. It explains the person's position, assigns a motive, and tells you how to feel about it, all in three words.
The majority of the left (and increasingly the center and parts of the right) take that shortcut not out of a desire to divide or side with the Marxists. They do it because life is complicated and we are wired to take shortcuts.
The problem is that shortcut is an assumption about intent. And assumptions about intent create anger.
The bigger problem is we aren't just wired to take shortcuts, we are wired to share shortcuts... and it's so easy to drop a comment or retweet one not realizing it was crafted to foment anger.
Ironically the person who accepts the shortcut doesn't save energy. They absorb anger. Then they share the shortcut, because that's what humans do online. And every person who accepts it absorbs more anger. The virus spreads. Anger begets more sharing.
Anger serves a function. It's supposed to focus us on figuring out intent. It's supposed to make us confront the person and ask their intent, and prepair us for battle if that intent turns out to be malign.
It's a shortcut to confrontation but we can't pick up a sword and walk down to our neighbors house... even if we do confront them online we can't look them in the eye and determine intent. So we can't drop the anger. And that anger consumes our day which forces us to look for more shortcuts.
This is why the left today waits for the NYTimes or NPR to tell them who to vote for or what lie to believe. That's why they all reiterate the same lie at the same time. So much of their days are cosnumed with anger they don't have time to read and think. They are grasping for a shortcut.
The great irony: people consuming and sharing these shortcuts believe they're saving time and thought. They end up consumed by it. The shortcut doesn't conserve cognitive energy. It injects a slow-burning emotional cost that has to be serviced continuously. You have to keep feeding the assumption. Keep reinforcing the story. Keep the anger alive, because if it dies, you'd have to go back and actually read those three pages of policy analysis you skipped.
This is how political derangement grows. Not through ideology. Through the compounding effect of millions of people accepting false assumptions about other people's motives. Each one a tiny hidden liability. Accumulated across a population, a structural crisis.
And it runs in one direction. The right has its own failures, but the institutional left has built an entire epistemological infrastructure around motive-attribution. Diversity training that teaches participants to assume racial motive in neutral interactions. Media style guides that embed assumptions about intent into the framing of news stories. Academic frameworks that treat motive-attribution as analysis. An entire generation has been trained to look at any policy disagreement and ask, "What kind of bigotry is driving this?"
And the problem has gotten so bad, they are so desperatly looking for shortcuts, that the intent doesn't even have to be racism or facism anymore. Look at my debates with Tom Nichols. He throws out random nonsense saying I act the way I do because "inferiority complex" or "jelous of the better educated" or whatever.
He knows it doesn't matter what the intent is. He just needs to tell his followers he knows my true intent (he doesn't) and they will take the shortcut.
That's not analysis. It's the mass production of anger.
Why You Can't Argue Your Way Out
For decades, the right tried to fight back the obvious way: prove the assumption wrong.
Get called a racists?
We would respond by talking about your black friends. What you appreciate about Black communities. Tell people what types of Black food or culture you love the most. Tell a story about a black member of your squad.
It's true, but it's weak.
suggested a better way... cold hard facts. When called a racist, points out he's a Canadian Arab Jewish war refugee. I mention that my Cornell-educated father moved to the South Bronx to serve minority communities.
These are powerful facts. They worked better for the past few years but not so much in 2026. Two reasons why.
First, it is nearly impossible to prove a negative. No amount of evidence can conclusively establish what is *not* in your heart. The accusation is unfalsifiable by design. That's not a bug in the Marcuse playbook. It's the feature.
Second, people running on shortcuts aren't going to read your defense. They already have their answer. A three-word motive-attribution will always travel faster than a three-page rebuttal.
How many times have you seen the left drop this comment: “I ain’t reading all that. Happy for you though. Or sorry that happened.”
There's a third option: just admit it when the accusation is true. The anger resolves instantly because the assumption about intent matches reality. No gap. But this only works when the accusation is actually correct, which, for the vast majority of people being called racist, it isn't.
When it is correct though, go ahead and use it. About once a week someone will say "John, you just hate communists" and I say: "Yes. I. Do."
What the right is beginning to figure out is a fourth approach: volume. They want a shortcut but they won't read one long explanation. They will, however, read a hundred short ones. Defending each other with small, factual corrections, post by post, slowly erodes the false assumption. CynicalPublisu got doxxed and hundreds of people shared little facts and insights about him. It's slower. It works. But it requires coordination and discipline that political movements rarely sustain. And we on the right aren't well organized.
And none of these strategies address the deepest layer of the problem, the layer I didn't understand until this week.
Still with me?
I know this long. I know I could shorten it but, like I said, those looking for shortcuts in life are likely already infected. If you made it this far you probably are still healthy and sane.
I appologize but I had to weed those people out.
What Just Happened with Ryan Evans
If you're on defense and national security X, you already know this story. If you're not, here's what you need to know.
Ryan Evans is the editor of War on the Rocks, arguably the most influential defense policy publication outside of the legacy outlets. I've known Ryan for years. He's sharp, he's liberal (more than he'll admit publicly), and he's a fighter. We've argued many times and he doesn't back down. I respect that about him.
Cynical Publius is an anonymous account run by an Army veteran named Tom. CP is also a friend of mine. We've had many private conversations. He's thoughtful, principled, and he was grieving the loss of his brother, a fact I believe Ryan was aware of.
Ryan doxxed CP through War on the Rocks. And not casually. Tom has a common name, common enough to provide real anonymity. But Ryan didn't just publish his first and last name. He published his full middle name. That is not standard editorial practice. I know WOTR's style guide. Ryan adheres to it almost religiously. The style guide doesn't include middle names.
I spent two hours trying to find an innocent explanation why he published Tom's middle name. The only logical conclusion I could reach was that Ryan included the middle name intentionally, to ensure identification. That made me angry, one of the few times Rosenberg's framework didn't immediately cool me down, because I wasn't assuming intent. I was deducing it from evidence.
To be clear, thanks to Rosenberg, I wasn't steaming. Just a little hot under the collar.
But thousands of people on X did erupt. Hundreds of accounts piled on Ryan. He weathered it the way a tough, stubborn editor would: blocked critics, stood his ground, ignored the mob. Manageable anger from people he could dismiss as trolls or partisans.
Then Data Republican got involved.
DR is, in my assessment, the most effective operators in the political information space. And the reason is her method, which I didn't fully understand until I watched this episode play out.
She DM'd CP and me. She was going to investigate.
Now, because Ryan is loosely a competitor, I've maintained a file on WOTR since its founding. Not a malignant file. More of a SWOT analysis. Every serious media operator keeps files on competitors. And in reviewing mine, I found something so explosive it could have made the evening news. Not on Ryan directly, but on people within the WOTR orbit. It connected to a story I've been developing for nearly a decade, one so big I've hesitated to publish it because the loose ends could generate "Konrad Didn't Kill Himself" memes after a three letter agency has me take a long walk on a short pier.
I called a friend, , and laid it out. He confirmed the information fit the general pattern of what he had independently.
I sent it to DR. Told her to be careful. "This is nitroglycerin."
Her reply: "I love nitroglycerin."
Up to this point, Ryan had blocked just about everyone on X except me, despite the fact my jabs at him were going the most viral. Maybe professional courtesy. Maybe our history. I don't make assumptions about intent.
DR ran the information through her system. A few of the loose ends she couldn't close. Now, what she had was more than enough to blow a hole in the internet. Legally clean. Factually verified. The loose ends could be hidden in inference. But she passed on the explosive story because the loose ends didn't meet her standard.
Her rigid standard. TRUTH
Instead, she prepared a brief on what she could verify to her satisfaction.
She DM'd me: "You might be disappointed but this is all true."
What she published was narrower than the nitroglycerin. But it was airtight. Quadruple-verified. Zero assumptions about intent. Just documented facts about what Ryan did and what the record showed.
BOOM
Ryan unblocked all comments. Published a death blossom of responses. Blocked all comments again. And as a parting shot, blocked me. The one person he'd left standing for days.
He had no idea the firestorm he avoided. The bigger story is still sitting in my files. But here's the part I can't stop thinking about:
Ryan appeared more upset by DR's verified truth than he would have been by the nitroglycerin.
The mob? He tanked it. Hundreds of angry accounts making assumptions about his intent? He could dismiss them. Trolls. Partisans. People who didn't know the full story.
But DR made no assumptions about his intent. She published no speculation. She just laid out what happened, verified to a standard that couldn't be challenged.
And that's what broke him.
The Missing Piece
I've been thinking about this all day, and I finally understand why. It's the piece of Rosenberg's framework that he never explained to me, or maybe never figured out himself.
If all anger comes from false assumptions about intent, then verified truth, the removal of all assumptions, should dissolve anger. DR's brief wasn't a flamethrower, it was a waterhose. The mechanism should resolve. Someone proves what actually happened, no spin, no motive-attribution, just facts. That should be the end of it.
That's what Rosenberg taught me.
But it isn't. It's the beginning of the most explosive anger there is. Ryan lost his mind.
Why?
La Rochefoucauld saw this three hundred years ago: "We are so accustomed to disguising ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves." He identified the phenomenon. He didn't map the mechanism.
The answer is embarrassingly simple:
We carry false assumptions about our own intentions.
We tell ourselves we are good. We tell ourselves we didn't do it for petty reasons. We tell ourselves ego wasn't driving the decision. We tell ourselves the cruelty was necessary, the shortcut was harmless, the motive was professional.
We tell ourselves we are good.
We tell ourselves we didn't do it for the money.
We tell ourselves it wasn't our ego driving the decision.
Ryan Evans, I suspect, had a story about why he included that middle name. Maybe he told himself it was editorial rigor. Maybe he told himself it was accountability. Maybe he told himself it was justified by something CP had done. I don't know what story he told himself, because I don't make assumptions about intent.
More importantly Ryan has a story about WarOnTheRocks. He has a story about how it's good. How it's not about the money. How it's independent from the swamp.
What I know is that when DR published verified facts, with no assumptions, no spin, no narrative, she didn't just challenge what Ryan did. She challenged the story Ryan had been telling himself.
An accusation from a mob can be dismissed. Those people are wrong. Those people are partisan. Those people don't know the full story. The false assumption is theirs, and you can reject it.
But when someone proves the truth, with documentation, with verification, with no assumptions at all, there is no external target. The only false assumption left is yours. About yourself.
And at that point you have a choice: accept what is now obvious about your own motives, or let a wave of anger crash so hard that it completely blinds you from the evidence you don't want to see.
Truth hurts. Most people choose the wave.
The psychologist Leon Festinger documented this in the 1950s. When cult members were confronted with undeniable proof that their doomsday prophecy had failed, they didn't leave. They became more committed. The belief was too central to who they were. Updating it would have meant admitting they'd organized their identity around a lie.
This is the same mechanism. It operates in marriages, in boardrooms, in newsrooms, and in politics. Verified truth is the most dangerous weapon in public discourse. Not because it makes people think. Because it threatens the story they cannot afford to stop believing about themselves.
Why Data Republican Works
Now I understand what makes DR so effective, and it's not what most people think.
I gave her nitroglycerin and she published a report she believed would dissapoint me.
It did the opposite. It invigorated me and blew a torpedeo sized hole in the side of War on The Rocks.
Most effective political operators use motive-attribution. They assign intent. They build narratives. They are loud and inflammatory and they generate engagement through the anger cycle Rosenberg described.
DR does none of that. Her method is the opposite of the Marcuse playbook. No assumptions about intent. No shortcuts. No neat three-word explanations of what someone was really thinking.
Cold. Hard Facts.
But not just any facts. Lots of people do that. Here facts are aimed directly at the left's perception of themselves.
She takes the unfocused anger of a crowd, which is built on a thousand unverified assumptions, and she distills it down to verified facts. Then she feeds those facts to the person responsible.
The crowd's anger was manageable because it was built on assumptions Ryan could reject. DR's facts were unmanageable because they left Ryan alone with his own.
That's the method. It doesn't generate anger. It redirects existing anger from an unfocused, assumption-laden cloud into a precise beam of truth aimed at the one person whose self-story can't survive it.
And that's why truth hurts more than any lie.
The Complete Picture
The entire apparatus of motive-attribution, every racism accusation, every phobia label, every shortcut disguised as analysis, depends on one condition: assumption of intent without checking receipts. That's the master Marxist shortcut. The glitch in the matrix. People like Data Republican check the receipts, boil them down like a Utah distiller, and reinject them into the borg.
And on a personal level, that's why Dad was angry. When I screwed up he didn't explode because I made a mistake. He flashed back to himself making the same mistake in Vietnam. My action burst the bubble he'd built around the war to protect himself from what he'd witnessed. The bubble burst and the horrors of war streamed out.
He got angry at the demons streaming out of him. He was yelling at them to get back inside. To not touch me.
My anger at him in later years was wrong too. I thought he was mad at me. Then a psychiatrist told me he was really mad at himself. Another told me he was mad at the nation that sent him to war. None of those explanations seemed right. I knew he died resolute against communism.
What he was really mad at was the demons of war escaping. The unholy demons of anger communists unleashed.
